Hot Wax & Temperature Play
Turn up the heat with wax play. Drip a little with candlesticks or a lot with pitchers in a rainbow of colors to create beautiful works of visual art. Combine with sensory deprivation to get the most out of this sensory experience.
Wax & Temperature Play
A classic element of BDSM, temperature play is an exciting way to explore new sensations and dynamics with your partner. All of our wax options are specially crafted from paraffin wax (as opposed to decorative candles which use beeswax). The lower melting temperature of paraffin gives you a brief twinge of intense heat that melts quickly into a sensual warmth, making these candles a safe and pleasurable way to heat things up. You can try pairing wax play with:
Whether you are just starting to explore sensation play or are already experienced in BDSM, candles are a simple but effective tool that everyone can enjoy.
FAQs
Is wax play safe? Does it hurt?
It is safe! The paraffin waxes used for temperature play candles like the Make Me Melt Warm Drip Candles have a melting point starting at 115 degrees Fahrenheit (46° Celsius), which is below the temperature that will cause injury to skin. How much heat you feel depends on how closely you drip the wax onto the skin. How much heat the bottom feels depends on how far the candle is held above their body.
We recommend starting off by holding the candle 2-3 feet over your partner to allow the wax time to cool slightly before making contact with their skin. You can slowly move it closer to increase the heat if desired, depending on your partner’s comfort level. Different brands and colors will all melt at slightly different temperatures, so we recommend always starting with the 2-3 foot distance when trying a new product.
What are the different types of body-safe candles? Which one should I choose?
At Bondesque, we offer two of the most popular options:
If you're a beginner to wax play, both sticks and pitchers are good options, but candle sticks generally offer less precision than candle pitchers.
Candle sticks drip hot individual drops on the skin, making each drop that much more tantalizing. Because candle sticks don't having any way to control the flow, the wax freely drips off of the stick, making it harder to moderate the amount and placement of the wax.
When you light a candle pitcher, you can let the wax pool in the pitcher until you have as much as you'd like to use. Pitchers make it easy to precisely choose when and where you drip – you can pour a steady stream or only release a few drops at a time.
If you're new to wax play, you may not know how much wax or heat you'd like. We do caution candle pitcher beginners to be careful about how much wax you're pouring, especially if the bottom is also new to wax play. Read below for advice on using pitcher candles and a few of our favorites!
I want more precision when applying wax. What should I do?
We sell temperature play wax pitchers for exactly this purpose! The Wax Play Pitcher Candle from Agreeable Agony is designed to let you pour wax exactly when and where you want it. Light the candle a few minutes before engaging in temperature play to let a small pool of melted wax form, then blow out the flame and use the pitcher spout for targeted application. If you're new to using a pitcher, gently tilt the pitcher until it drips a few drops so you can learn how to control the flow and direction of the wax. Do this a few times until you feel more confident in your ability to control the wax.
If you want to add a fun visual element to your play, try out Agreeable Agony’s UV Wax Play Pitcher Candles, which are specially formulated to glow under black light!
How do I clean up after wax play?
Applying a silicone lube like Überlube to the skin before engaging in wax play will make clean up quick and easy! Simply apply a thin layer of lube anywhere you plan to drip wax (or apply it as a massage oil all over if you want to keep your sub guessing!) then proceed as usual. Once the wax is dried the droplets will peel off easily instead of crumbling or getting stuck to fine hairs.